Writing a card or choosing the right arrangement to send can be a difficult process. If you are having trouble, give us a call or read more in our sympathy guide.
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Funeral / Sympathy Flowers
Mary Murray's Flowers is recognized as a funeral flower specialist with personal affiliations with local funeral directors in Tulsa County area. We design fresh flower baskets, standing flower sprays, elegant funeral wreaths, floral funeral hearts, flower crosses, or beautiful flowering gardens. We also deliver a wide variety of appropriate funeral, sympathy, or memorial green and blooming plants. Browse our selection online or call us directly for personalized assistance.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the appropriate flower for sympathy?
Roses and carnations are both popular flowers for funerals, memorial services, and other sympathy occasions. Other appropriate selections include lilies (especially calla lilies), gladioli, chrysanthemums, and orchids.
What color flower is best for sympathy?
The best color flower for a funeral, memorial service, or expression of condolences, varies between people and between cultures. Traditionally in Western cultures, red roses at a funeral symbolize strength and dignity. White is also a popular color, symbolizing honor and peace. Of course, bright flowers and pastels are also appropriate. Blue flowers represent sadness, and purple flowers represent respect. We recommend you also consider honoring the deceased with arrangements made with their favorite flower varieties and favorite colors.
When should you have sympathy flowers delivered?
It is appropriate to send a vased bouquet of sympathy flowers or a sympathy plant as soon as you hear of the passing of the deceased. We recommend that you wait to send larger arrangements, like standing easel sprays or wreaths, until the funeral service is held. It is also a kind idea to send flowers to the home a week later to remind the bereaved that they are still in your thoughts.
What type of arrangement is appropriate to send to a funeral or memorial service?
Anyone may send floral baskets, vased arrangements or living plants. Floral wreaths, crosses, and sprays are appropriate when sent by anyone personally acquainted with the deceased or the family of the deceased. Tributes, casket covers, and urn arrangements are traditionally reserved for family members. Should you wish to send an arrangement of this type, be sure to ask the family first. If you would like to learn more about funeral flower etiquette, view our Funeral Etiquette guide.
Can I send a live plant to the funeral home?
Yes, it is appropriate to send a green or flowering plant to the funeral home. Many funeral homes will deliver plants or flowers to the home of the bereaved after the memorial services, if specified. Others may request that the family take them home with them.
Where can I send funeral and sympathy flowers in Tulsa?
Mary Murray's Flowers is honored to offer delivery to all local cemeteries and funeral homes in Tulsa and surrounding areas at your convenience. We can also deliver to local residences and any location hosting a memorial service.
Can I send sympathy flowers to the family's home?
Absolutely. Some people choose to send flowers a week or so after the funeral, to remind the bereaved that they are still thinking of them and their loss. Floral honors are always appreciated, no matter when they are received.
What should I write in a sympathy card?
Coming up with the words for a sincere and thoughtful sympathy message is probably the most difficult of all. Trying to comfort someone who is in pain and has suffered a loss may leave you confused on where to begin. It is helpful to write words of support and encouragement and, above all else, to be sincere and thoughtful. Often a well-crafted quote works well to capture the sentiment you're feeling.If you are having some difficulty finding the right words, our sympathy guide may be helpful.